March 27, 2012
I received an email recently from a dear friend wondering, ‘How will I know when I’m happy’? Not what is happiness, or what isn’t. And my very first thought was, what an important and poignant question. Isn’t this question at the root of not only my deepest, most heart-felt desires, but also my most profound disappointments?
Lately we’ve been inundated with books, movies, research projects and a bazillion blog posts offering us someone else’s answers to this question. I’m at times astonished by the immediate access I have to others’ thoughts on just about every topic under the sun. But in thinking about my own happiness, the downside to immediate access to others’ ideas is that I can get confused. I can begin to lose myself in ways that are so subtle I hardly notice.
Have you ever woken up and realized you’ve bought into something, or are moving in a direction, that doesn’t quite fit you? I have. Having an answer to this question may help to get you back on your own path.
So for the moment, I’m going with my initial reaction, which is to simply stay with the question. And to encourage you to stay with the question, ‘How will I know when I’m happy’? It seems important, because if I don’t know the answer to that, how will I know if I’m experiencing it, or even coming close to experiencing it?
I invite you to comment with your own thoughts about how you know when you’re happy, recognizing that there are absolutely zero rights or wrongs with this one.