Losing the “I Am’s”

March 18, 2012

“I am kind—except when I’m not.  I am scared–sometimes.  I am pretty good at engaging with people—except when I’m feeling insecure.  I am tall—except that I’m shrinking so how long will that last?  I am thin—but as I get older it can relate more to looking haggard than thin!”

I’m wondering if there’s any practical or compelling reason to keep circulating these statements about myself in my head.   Because here’s the rub.  When I already think I know who I am, does that somehow shape or, more importantly,  limit who I might really be, or how I might transform with time?

Seriously, if I hold on to an ‘I am’, is it possible that I may not notice when I’m being a rotter, because I’m holding on to some crazy, untrue belief about myself that I’m always kind?  If I drop the belief that ‘I’m (always) kind’, I suspect I might be more open to the possibility that of course I am, and yet sometimes I’m not.  Which opens the door for me to be kinder.  All of which begs the question, does this apply to all my ‘I am’s’??

Kind of exciting to see who might show up if I simply drop the I am’s and allow myself to be whoever I am in the moment.

8 comments

  1. Dick says:

    This was an enlightening thought for today. Thank you. I AM…not I am “something” or “anything”, just…I AM. In the moment, I AM…and whatever that “is” may not even be relevant to my personal happiness or fulfillment. However, the reality of dwelling in the real moments, moment by moment, IS my reality…in that moment. It is who, what, why, how I AM.

  2. This is a very enlightening and positive thought for today….thank you for acknowledging that it’s OK to be who we are in a moment and to honestly accept ourselves as is. I’m learning to like myself more each day.

  3. Tara says:

    I love this thought. Certainly makes you stop and think. I will (for at least the rest of today) keep my mind and world open to the thought of “I am or what if I am not” . Thanks Robyn!

  4. Jennie says:

    I’m sorry, but you ARE inspiring, and I can’t help but to think of that awesome Neil Diamond song. I think it’s even titled “I Am,” but that might be too good to be true 🙂

  5. Ken Roush says:

    Never thought about it until you planted the statement. Even at my advanced stage in life, I guess there is always the possibility of finding out who I really am, opening up all kinds of possibilities. Keep these wonderful thoughts coming.

  6. rebecca g says:

    ”life is a story that starts with ‘I am’ ” or something like that, to paraphrase byron katie. when the story falls away, all negative thoughts about myself or other things lose their power. i like to remember the scene in labyrinth where the protagonist realizes and says to the goblin king ”you have no power over me”.

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