By Robyn

Confidential – You Will Never Be Perfect!

But it’s Okay. October 13, 2019 One of the most significant discoveries of the 20th century is that our brains are subject to change. For centuries we believed we were stuck with what we got. Meaning if we didn’t have our acts together by the time we were five-years-old, we would go through life with …

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Complaining is not Conversation

September 29, 2019 “Complaining is finding faults. Wisdom is finding solutions.” — Ajahn Brahm The other night I was out to dinner, and I did it again! Tried to build a case about the injustices in the world. I was making my case with someone who already knows my position and could probably repeat it …

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You Are Bigger Than What is Happening Around You

September 15, 2019 “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”—Margaret Mead There have been acts of barbarism since the beginning of time. What we’re seeing today isn’t a new phenomenon. I suspect it seems new, or maybe worse is a …

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In Self-Awareness, the Cracks Are What Matter

August 18, 2019 Self-awareness, especially of our flaws, can be a gift or curse. It’s tricky. Self-awareness as a gift can save us from drowning in self-righteousness. It can keep us humble and approachable and able to feel compassion for the foibles of others along with our own. As Leonard Cohen offered in his poignant song, …

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What Do You Hunger For?

July 7, 2019 Now here is my secret. It is very simple. It is only with one’s heart that one can see clearly.  What is essential is invisible to the eye. — Antoine De Saint-Exupery I hunger for truth. I hunger for kindness. I hunger for friendships that are both comforting and illuminating. I hunger …

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Emotional First Aid: Go for the Feeling, Not the Thing

June 23, 2019 Getting things (and the hunt for them) can be exhilarating. Chasing the newest toy, fanciest car, biggest house, post gone viral, more followers and likes — all can generate a short-term feeling of excitement and even euphoria. Actualization of our desires can add sparkle and entertainment. However, that approach can also make …

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