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Imagine This is the Last Day of Your Life

April 15, 2018 You’ve heard this question before.  It may have resonated, but then you went on with your day, not paying it more attention than that.  Consider taking a moment now to be with it in a different, more thoughtful, way — it may be one of the most… Read more

How to Love the One You Have

… not the one in the romance novel.   April 1, 2018 What’s at the core of our relationship problems?  What keeps us from loving, and from feeling loved?  What gets in the way of the closeness and connectedness that every one of us profoundly wants? WE WANT THEM TO… Read more

How to Be a Curious Scientist and Reduce Your Pain

… and anything else that’s bothering you. March 18, 2018 You’ve tried everything you can think of to feel happy with yourself exactly as you are.  You’ve listened to the podcasts, read the blogs, and taken courses about loving yourself. But no matter how much you read about somebody else’s… Read more

How to Be an Uncommonly Mature Adult

March 5, 2018 “When we don’t get what we want, and we believe our thoughts and concepts about other people or events we tend to be manipulative, and our life has little compassion.  A life of compassion is non manipulative.  We don’t try to change anyone other than ourself.”   … Read more

How to Get Big Results From Your Resentments

February 18, 2018 The weak can never forgive.  Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.  Mahatma Gandhi How often have you lost someone important because you just couldn’t let go of the belief that they betrayed you in some way? How many people have you sidelined because they didn’t live… Read more

Projection — enemy or ally?

February 4, 2018 Like a butterfly, Flitting here, there. Touching hearts but Never being touched. This is a poem I wrote in high school about a friend with whom I didn’t feel an emotional connection.  At least not in a way that was meaningful to me.  I was anguished, as… Read more

Three simple steps to positive change

January 21, 2018 I’ve never met anyone – client, family member, or friend – who doesn’t want to live vibrantly.  But sometimes we get stuck and we need to shake things up. Change isn’t always easy.  But after years of working with clients (and myself) around change, I know that… Read more

Wishes for us

January 7, 2018 After receiving an unwelcome diagnosis, Nina Riggs wrote in The Bright Hour, a Memoir of Living and Dying: “There are so many things that are worse than death: old grudges, a lack of self-awareness, severe constipation, no sense of humor, the grimace on your husband’s face as… Read more

Five steps to take charge of your 2018

December 31, 2017 Step 1: Pick 5 focus words for 2018. Choose words that will help you get in touch with unexperienced parts of yourself:  zany, emotional, hilarious, charismatic, responsible, stable, flexible, compassionate, courageous, spontaneous, bold, kind, authentic – whatever you say you’re not, pick a word that will help… Read more

Three simple questions

December 17, 2017 Attention – where’s yours? What comes naturally is to be lost in the past or the future. Past:  ruminating about what happened, or didn’t happen.  You’re reliving every miserable moment and stressing your body just like it was stressed before.  Over and over and over.  Poor body!… Read more