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A Change in Perspective Can Make All the Difference

Consider three ideas for a fresh take on your life.   May 16, 2021 A change in perspective can turn a lusterless, seemingly empty life into a rich, bold experience if you let it. Ask yourself, “What ideas are shaping my life?” Whatever your answers, ask yourself a second question:… Read more

When Your Reaction to an Experience Causes More Pain than the Experience

You know you’ve shot a second arrow.   May 2, 2021   Years ago, I came back from a ten-day retreat that felt life-changing. I was overflowing and wanted to share it with a friend. After a few minutes, she said, in essence, that’s nice, and began to share her… Read more

Being Quiet Occasionally

April 18, 2021 I originally published this post in 2015. It generated a lot of email responses and comments–which, incidentally, I love to get. Please keep them coming. The last six years have brought monumental changes to my life and the world. But one thing hasn’t changed. Too often, I… Read more

Using Anger to Replace Other Uncomfortable Feelings is a Dead-end Street

It’s like putting up a fence to keep out the air.   April 4, 2021 Using Anger as a Cover-Up Emotion Most of us didn’t learn how to allow ourselves to feel afraid or vulnerable. We did, however, learn how to cover our fears and vulnerabilities with anger because that… Read more

You Don’t Have to Meditate to Become Your Best Self

There is an alternative. March 21, 2021   Just breathe.   I’m a meditator. I teach meditation. And sometimes, for weeks in a row, I don’t get on the cushion and meditate. There, I’ve said it. But what I do every day is breathe. And I do it in a… Read more

All We Need is Attention

To make the world a lot less lonely.     March 7, 2021   “Those who are unhappy have no need for anything in the world, but people capable of giving them their attention.” Simone Weil Some of us are living in a crisis of conscience. We are ashamed that… Read more

Without Patience, All Other Qualities Are Shaky

To develop patience, practice the pause.   February 21, 2021 When you’ve been trapped at home with your family for months, drained of compassion by the Groundhog Day experience that has piggy-backed on Covid, the antidote to wanting to leave your children to fend for themselves is patience. We want… Read more

We Tell Stories not Only to Find Ourselves

We tell them to find and connect with, each other. January 7, 2021 If I told you when I was eighteen, my mom, my little brother and sister, and I moved from Troy, Tennessee, to Chicago, you would know a fact about my family. Still, you wouldn’t know me. But… Read more

Want More Peace?

Loosen the Iron Grip You’ve had on Some of Your Thoughts.   January 24, 2021 Thoughts aren’t a problem — until we assume our ideas and opinions represent facts. THOUGHTS ARE NOT FACTS Just because somebody doesn’t wave back, it doesn’t mean they hate us, or we suck. Maybe they… Read more

Will This Year Be Better for You than the Last One?

One predictor will be how you answer that question.   January 9, 2021 Climate change will still be haunting and challenging us. Covid-19, injustice, and discrimination aren’t going away any time soon. Nevertheless, the quality of this year will, in actuality, be a reflection of our attitudes and perspectives. We… Read more