September 19, 2020 This post was originally posted in early 2017. I moved last weekend and rather than skip a publication date, I updated this post that seemed to be a favorite. Hope that you enjoy it. If you want to reduce your suffering, change your relationship to pain. The… Read more
September 5, 2020 We get unstuck when we meet life on life’s terms. Because impermanence is one of the few things we can count on, discomfort is, to our dismay, part of the human condition. In spite of our spiritual leanings and our beliefs about an afterlife, the idea of… Read more
August 23, 2020 But do it with kindness. “Wisdom is not merely something to be gained with old age. One can be wise in every stage of one’s life. To manifest wisdom means simply to step back and see.”–Seido Ray Ronci, “The Examined Life” Years ago, I began to question… Read more
August 9, 2020 We don’t have to be famous, wealthy, or brilliant to make a difference. If enough of us regular people hang together, we can change the world. But before we can do that, we need to make conscious decisions about where we’re going to put our attention, and… Read more
July 26, 2020 Figure out what you long to experience and let that be your guide. In an On Being article, Our Inescapable Selves, blogger Courtney E. Martin asked herself a question. “What are three things you want people to say about you when you’re not in the room?” I loved the idea… Read more
July 12, 2020 Honorable relationships depend on our ability to explore the things we believe we can’t talk about. Emotional intimacy requires that we ask the questions, even when we’re not sure we want to hear the answers. Life is a touchingly brief opportunity to taste just about anything our… Read more
June 28, 2020 You’ve heard it before. Change your mindset, and your world will transform. “To become a different kind of person is to experience the world differently. When your mind changes, the world changes. And when we respond differently to the world, the world responds differently to us.” — David… Read more
June 14, 2020 Turn the tables and give others what it is that you want to get from them—a sense of safety. The best gift you are ever going to give someone is permission to feel safe in their own skin. To feel worthy. To feel like they are enough. —Hannah… Read more
May 31, 2020 It hurts to be human. When something hurts, it’s natural to want it to go away. Acceptance of pain, whether emotional or physical, doesn’t come naturally. What comes naturally is to try everything you can think of to feel better. You’ve listened to podcasts, read the blogs, and… Read more
May 17, 2020 What it isn’t, for starters, is becoming the emotional equivalent of a stone. Instead of “letting it go,” it’s about “letting it be.” Like mindfulness, I hear the term non-attachment a lot. To many familiar with these terms, mindfulness and non-attachment both imply something we should be… Read more