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Three simple steps to positive change

January 21, 2018 I’ve never met anyone – client, family member, or friend – who doesn’t want to live vibrantly.  But sometimes we get stuck and we need to shake things up. Change isn’t always easy.  But after years of working with clients (and myself) around change, I know that… Read more

Wishes for us

January 7, 2018 After receiving an unwelcome diagnosis, Nina Riggs wrote in The Bright Hour, a Memoir of Living and Dying: “There are so many things that are worse than death: old grudges, a lack of self-awareness, severe constipation, no sense of humor, the grimace on your husband’s face as… Read more

Five steps to take charge of your 2018

December 31, 2017 Step 1: Pick 5 focus words for 2018. Choose words that will help you get in touch with unexperienced parts of yourself:  zany, emotional, hilarious, charismatic, responsible, stable, flexible, compassionate, courageous, spontaneous, bold, kind, authentic – whatever you say you’re not, pick a word that will help… Read more

Three simple questions

December 17, 2017 Attention – where’s yours? What comes naturally is to be lost in the past or the future. Past:  ruminating about what happened, or didn’t happen.  You’re reliving every miserable moment and stressing your body just like it was stressed before.  Over and over and over.  Poor body!… Read more

Making friends with our whole self

December 3, 2017 “…we can deliberate, so I believe only we are capable of true calculated evil.” Jane Goodall In this post I want to reframe something that we take for granted. We have several euphemisms for what I’m talking about –  the most common being shadow side or dark… Read more

Your internal compass won’t let you down

November 12, 2017 “I’d always thought telling the truth to other people was hard, but maybe that was a snap compared to telling the truth to yourself.  Sometimes we just refuse to know what we know.”  Deb Caletti Your inner compass won’t let you down, but getting to it can… Read more

Relationship game changer #2

10/29/17 “The best gift you are ever going to give someone is permission to feel safe in their own skin.  To feel worthy.  To feel like they are enough.”  Hannah Brencher Game changer #2 applies equally to every relationship we have – partners, children, parents, co-workers, friends and acquaintances. If… Read more

Relationship game changer

October 15, 2017 There is no perfect partner. For most of us, a primary goal in all our relationships is to feel good, or at least better, about ourselves.  What more satisfying way to do that than to find the perfect partner? In romantic relationships in particular, what it takes… Read more

Respect everyone … no exceptions?

September 24, 2017 “Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach.”  —Clarissa Pinkola Estes My mantra for a while has been respect everyone – no exceptions. No surprise, it’s… Read more

Self-Image — hold it lightly

September 10, 2017 “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” —Rumi A healthy self-image is important.  At the same time, it can reflect another face of ‘attachment’, the word we tackled in the last… Read more