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How to Create Emotional Intimacy in Your Relationships

Spoiler: it’s not have more sex.   September 18, 2022   I’m back after a relaxing and renewing summer! I’m looking forward to sharing more on relationships–all stuff I’ve either learned through my own trial and error or through my clients’ generosity in sharing their lives with me.    … Read more

18 Questions to Answer Before You Make a Long-Term Commitment

The only things you need to talk about with your partner are the things you believe you can’t talk about.   July 10, 2022 For the first time in eleven years of writing and posting Seedlings (almost) every other Sunday morning, I’m going to take a brief summer break. I’ll see… Read more

How to Handle Insecurity so it Works For You, not Against You.

Stop running away from it — stare it straight in the face, and use it. June 19, 2022   Facing feelings of insecurity is like asking someone to stab themself in the eye with a pencil. Who wants to see characteristics that can come from insecurity, much less confront them? Negative self-image. Perfectionism.… Read more

How to Use the Big Squeeze to Your, and Everybody Else’s, Advantage

Build a better business, a better family, a better world.   May 30, 2022 For a couple of days, I lost my mind. Well, I didn’t lose it; I misplaced my brain’s managing partner. Before I figured it out, I was sleeping poorly and noticed my resting heart rate was… Read more

How to Live a Big Life

Learn to take reasonable risks and use lots of discretion in listening to others’ advice.     May 22, 2022   Living a big life takes courage. To over and over stand at the edge of a metaphorical cliff and take a step, not knowing the exact outcome. Each time you… Read more

How to Turn a Conflict into a Conversation

Master the art of managing yourself, not them.   May 8, 2022 People will always see the world through different lenses. We can turn that into a problem or learn to manage ourselves like class acts when conflict rears its gnarly head. Whether you’re at work, at home, or shopping… Read more

Do the Opposite of What Comes Naturally, and Change the Course of Your Life

Get the truth from someone you trust, but brace yourself for what you might hear.   April 24, 2022 Coaches and mentors come in all shapes and sizes. If you are ready for change, look for people who hold a mirror up to your approaches, who ask challenging questions, and who… Read more

How to Use a Two-Part Strategy to Make Your, and Someone Else’s, Day Better

And remember, we all want the same thing. April 10, 2022 So says Peter Kaufman, a storehouse of information on living life well. He’s the CEO of Glenair, an aerospace company based in California, and the editor of Poor Charlie’s Almanack, a book about Charlie Munger. You’ve probably never heard of… Read more

Mindfulness Practice Doesn’t Make You Perfect

It won’t even eliminate discomfort — but if you embrace it, your life will be richer. March 27, 2022     If you seriously engage in a mindfulness practice it will almost certainly help you learn to laugh at yourself, or at least take yourself — your thoughts and beliefs — a bit less seriously. And who… Read more

How to Live Above the Line

And get back quickly when you fall below.     March 13, 2022 Georgia O’Keeffe said, I have been afraid every moment of my life, and it hasn’t kept me from doing anything. I too have been afraid every moment of my life, and sometimes it has kept me from doing things. I don’t… Read more