May 26, 2019 We human beings are hard-wired to avoid pain and seek pleasure. With regard to emotional pain, that begs the question is there any possibility of changing our negative relationship with it? Is there a way to avoid it less so that we can benefit more from the… Read more
May 12, 2019 “One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the thing you’ve always wanted to do. Do it now.” – Paulo Coelho Life can be hard. Sometimes it’s easier to think about what we want to do, than to actually do it.… Read more
April 28, 2019 “Your opinions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” Unknown Judging is an essential part of being human, although it has developed a bad rap. I often hear people express the idea that they don’t… Read more
April 14, 2019 “There is no passion in playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”–Nelson Mandela In our most intimate relationships we often dance over, under, and around the things that matter to us. We wonder why our… Read more
March 31, 2019 “You will not be punished for your anger; you will be punished by your anger.” –Buddha We used to think the best way to manage our anger was to express it, ideally in a way that didn’t physically or emotionally harm someone else. For instance, getting in… Read more
March 10, 2019 “If I were to scratch below the surface of anyone I would find fear, pain, and anxiety running amok” – Charlotte Joko Beck We all have ways to cover up what makes us feel uncomfortable. We overeat, overdrink, overwork, over-talk, watch too much television, make life into… Read more
February 24, 2019 “Emotional intimacy involves a perception of closeness to another that allows sharing of personal feelings, accompanied by expectations of understanding, affirmation, and demonstration of caring” — Wikipedia We are born alone and we die alone. We inhabit a body and mind that no one, including ourselves, will… Read more
February 10, 2019 “We are never more powerful than when we are completely vulnerable and have nothing to defend”—Robyn Norman Vulnerability is a word we hear a lot these days. Most of us have been raised to believe that to be vulnerable is to be weak. Or worse, that it… Read more
January 27, 2019 “To imagine that some ‘thing’ – food, sex, power, money, material possession, a lover, a child – will make you happy is to deceive yourself. Only something as vast and deep as your real self can make you truly and lastingly happy” – Sri Nisargadatta Majaraj, 20thcentury… Read more
January 13, 2019 “The pursuit of normality is the ultimate sacrifice of potential.” Faith Jegede Cole In fact, the pursuit of normality has the potential to be the death of you. Normality is defined as “the condition of being normal; the state of being usual, typical, or expected”. In other… Read more