July 26, 2020 Figure out what you long to experience and let that be your guide. In an On Being article, Our Inescapable Selves, blogger Courtney E. Martin asked herself a question. “What are three things you want people to say about you when you’re not in the room?” I loved the idea… Read more
July 12, 2020 Honorable relationships depend on our ability to explore the things we believe we can’t talk about. Emotional intimacy requires that we ask the questions, even when we’re not sure we want to hear the answers. Life is a touchingly brief opportunity to taste just about anything our… Read more
June 28, 2020 You’ve heard it before. Change your mindset, and your world will transform. “To become a different kind of person is to experience the world differently. When your mind changes, the world changes. And when we respond differently to the world, the world responds differently to us.” — David… Read more
June 14, 2020 Turn the tables and give others what it is that you want to get from them—a sense of safety. The best gift you are ever going to give someone is permission to feel safe in their own skin. To feel worthy. To feel like they are enough. —Hannah… Read more
May 31, 2020 It hurts to be human. When something hurts, it’s natural to want it to go away. Acceptance of pain, whether emotional or physical, doesn’t come naturally. What comes naturally is to try everything you can think of to feel better. You’ve listened to podcasts, read the blogs, and… Read more
May 17, 2020 What it isn’t, for starters, is becoming the emotional equivalent of a stone. Instead of “letting it go,” it’s about “letting it be.” Like mindfulness, I hear the term non-attachment a lot. To many familiar with these terms, mindfulness and non-attachment both imply something we should be… Read more
May 4, 2020 I spent most of my twenties and thirties feeling uncomfortable and “less than” because it was clear to me that I wasn’t an expert at any one thing. Somewhere along the way, I picked up the belief that being an expert at something was “the goal.” You… Read more
April 19, 2020 The only way we will be defeated during this unimaginable time is if we give up or turn on ourselves, or each other. We need to become intentional in ratcheting up our resilience by doing everything in our power to remind ourselves of the best of who we… Read more
April 5, 2020 Resistance = closed mind. Resistance is about refusing to accept something that is physically, mentally, or emotionally painful or uncomfortable. Logically, the simple alternative is to accept whatever shows up—although not as easy as it sounds because we’re talking about accepting discomfort as well as pleasure. The… Read more
March 23, 2020 Before I get into today’s Seedlings—Are You Sick and Tired of Hearing, “Just Let it Go?”—I acknowledge that we are in what is one of the most challenging times of our lives. We are all first responders. We have to be vigilant in taking care of ourselves… Read more