May 31, 2020 It hurts to be human. When something hurts, it’s natural to want it to go away. Acceptance of pain, whether emotional or physical, doesn’t come naturally. What comes naturally is to try everything you can think of to feel better. You’ve listened to podcasts, read the blogs, and… Read more
May 17, 2020 What it isn’t, for starters, is becoming the emotional equivalent of a stone. Instead of “letting it go,” it’s about “letting it be.” Like mindfulness, I hear the term non-attachment a lot. To many familiar with these terms, mindfulness and non-attachment both imply something we should be… Read more
May 4, 2020 I spent most of my twenties and thirties feeling uncomfortable and “less than” because it was clear to me that I wasn’t an expert at any one thing. Somewhere along the way, I picked up the belief that being an expert at something was “the goal.” You… Read more
April 19, 2020 The only way we will be defeated during this unimaginable time is if we give up or turn on ourselves, or each other. We need to become intentional in ratcheting up our resilience by doing everything in our power to remind ourselves of the best of who we… Read more
April 5, 2020 Resistance = closed mind. Resistance is about refusing to accept something that is physically, mentally, or emotionally painful or uncomfortable. Logically, the simple alternative is to accept whatever shows up—although not as easy as it sounds because we’re talking about accepting discomfort as well as pleasure. The… Read more
March 23, 2020 Before I get into today’s Seedlings—Are You Sick and Tired of Hearing, “Just Let it Go?”—I acknowledge that we are in what is one of the most challenging times of our lives. We are all first responders. We have to be vigilant in taking care of ourselves… Read more
March 8, 2020 We will know we have become wise when we’ve learned to sit on the edge. Wisdom is the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment. It is the combination of the first two that allow for the third. Experience is a given with the passage of… Read more
February 16, 2020 Life is more than the designer moments If we treat each moment as an end in itself. We like movies that reflect designer moments. The hero, though smaller, wins the fight with the proverbial Goliath. He rescues the heroin seconds before she will fall off a cliff.… Read more
February 2, 2020 If you want to know who you are, have a child or two. I suspect that if you are a parent still in the process of supporting your children into adulthood or looking back at how it was, it hasn’t been easy. And you are not alone.… Read more
January 19, 2020 Our “go-to-place” is where we go when we’ve reached our limit. We all have a breaking point — that place where life throws a bit too much, and we believe we can’t handle one more thing. Just like a computer program, it’s an emotional default where we… Read more