June 14, 2020 Turn the tables and give others what it is that you want to get from them—a sense of safety. The best gift you are ever going to give someone is permission to feel safe in their own skin. To feel worthy. To feel like they are enough. —Hannah Brencher This idea is a …
Make Friends with Your Limitations and Reduce Your Emotional Pain
May 31, 2020 It hurts to be human. When something hurts, it’s natural to want it to go away. Acceptance of pain, whether emotional or physical, doesn’t come naturally. What comes naturally is to try everything you can think of to feel better. You’ve listened to podcasts, read the blogs, and taken courses about loving yourself. …
Non-Attachment Is Best Understood by Looking at What it Isn’t
May 17, 2020 What it isn’t, for starters, is becoming the emotional equivalent of a stone. Instead of “letting it go,” it’s about “letting it be.” Like mindfulness, I hear the term non-attachment a lot. To many familiar with these terms, mindfulness and non-attachment both imply something we should be after , and suggest desirable states …
If Thinking You Need to Be an Expert Has Kept You Stuck, Read This
May 4, 2020 I spent most of my twenties and thirties feeling uncomfortable and “less than” because it was clear to me that I wasn’t an expert at any one thing. Somewhere along the way, I picked up the belief that being an expert at something was “the goal.” You don’t need to be an …
Resilience is a Necessity, Not a Superpower
April 19, 2020 The only way we will be defeated during this unimaginable time is if we give up or turn on ourselves, or each other. We need to become intentional in ratcheting up our resilience by doing everything in our power to remind ourselves of the best of who we are. What is Resilience? Resilience …
Acceptance = Open Mind
April 5, 2020 Resistance = closed mind. Resistance is about refusing to accept something that is physically, mentally, or emotionally painful or uncomfortable. Logically, the simple alternative is to accept whatever shows up—although not as easy as it sounds because we’re talking about accepting discomfort as well as pleasure. The shift from resistance to acceptance …
Are You Sick and Tired of Hearing, “Just Let it Go?”
March 23, 2020 Before I get into today’s Seedlings—Are You Sick and Tired of Hearing, “Just Let it Go?”—I acknowledge that we are in what is one of the most challenging times of our lives. We are all first responders. We have to be vigilant in taking care of ourselves to have something of value …
How Will We Know When We Have Become Wise?
March 8, 2020 We will know we have become wise when we’ve learned to sit on the edge. Wisdom is the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment. It is the combination of the first two that allow for the third. Experience is a given with the passage of time, and we have limitless …
Life is More than the Designer Moments
February 16, 2020 Life is more than the designer moments If we treat each moment as an end in itself. We like movies that reflect designer moments. The hero, though smaller, wins the fight with the proverbial Goliath. He rescues the heroin seconds before she will fall off a cliff. Is there anybody who doesn’t …
Parenting Isn’t for Sissies
February 2, 2020 If you want to know who you are, have a child or two. I suspect that if you are a parent still in the process of supporting your children into adulthood or looking back at how it was, it hasn’t been easy. And you are not alone. We parents are better at …