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July 23, 2017 This is the second in a short series of posts clarifying some common, and sometimes overly used, terms. The topic is codependency.  I’ll attempt to 1) clarify it, 2) normalize it, and 3) offer a reframe for how to look at it. Codependency is when you believe that ‘they’ are responsible for … Read more


July 10, 2017 This is the first in a series exploring terms that seem to create confusion or make people’s hair stand on end, either from shame or in judgment of someone else. Boundaries… You need to have healthy boundaries! They have crossed a boundary they shouldn’t have! You better figure out what your boundaries … Read more

Taking responsibility = taking action

June 22, 2017 It’s so easy to see what’s wrong with ‘them’.  And once we’ve seen it, talking about it with anyone who will listen, ad nauseam, is a great distraction from how impotent or frustrated we feel. The boss is an idiot, the guy who voted for the ‘wrong’ candidate and still supports him … Read more

Want to reduce your suffering?

June 4, 2017 Let’s explore pain and how you might develop a different relationship to it. The idea is that by changing your perspective — your thoughts and attitudes about pain — you can change how you experience it. Sounds crazy, I know.  Pain is pain. But is it? Pain is literally comprised of a … Read more

6 keys to pure joy

May 14, 2017 I remember being a twenty-something — what it felt like to be alive at that age.  At twenty-something my future was forever, in spite of evidence to the contrary. Forty years later I feel enormous gratitude that I can still appreciate the magic of my youth, and also look forward to the … Read more

How to experience true love

4/30/17 The people who trigger, annoy, irritate, excite, enliven, or enlarge you are always more than the label you’ve given them.  Irritating, obnoxious, peaceful, narrow, worrier, closed, open, arrogant, loving, content, insecure, anxious, generous … everyone whom you’ve ever burdened with a label is so much more than the ideas you have about them. The … Read more

5 keys to enlightenment

April 16, 2017 Mindfulness is the topic du jour, and it doesn’t look like it’s going out of style any time soon. You can’t turn around without hearing a word or phrase related to it — meditation, acceptance, letting go, enlightenment… In some ways each term has been endowed with mythical characteristics, but enlightenment may take the … Read more

What’s your one-line message to the world?

April 2, 2017 I came across five questions in an interview.  They grabbed me. My answers are profoundly different than they would have been twenty, ten or even five years ago.  I suspect that five years into the future, if I go through this exercise again, my answers will reflect new experiences and new … Read more

Just 90 seconds …

March 19, 2017 Being human means that we’re attracted to what feels good, and resistant to what doesn’t.  That’s the ground of our humanness, and a primary cause of our fear and suffering. Aware of it or not, we bounce between those two states all day, every day, throughout our lives.  Always with the intention … Read more

Fact of life: relationships are difficult

February 26, 2017 Scott Peck opened his book, The Road Less Traveled, with the statement “Life is difficult”.  With those three words I nominate him for an award for all-time best opening line of any book. I’m opening with “Relationships are difficult”.  Relationships with people we care about are hard.  We need all the help we … Read more