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Relationship game changer

October 15, 2017 There is no perfect partner. For most of us, a primary goal in all our relationships is to feel good, or at least better, about ourselves.  What more satisfying way to do that than to find the perfect partner? In romantic relationships in particular, what it takes… Read more

Respect everyone … no exceptions?

September 24, 2017 “Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach.”  —Clarissa Pinkola Estes My mantra for a while has been respect everyone – no exceptions. No surprise, it’s… Read more

Self-Image — hold it lightly

September 10, 2017 “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” —Rumi A healthy self-image is important.  At the same time, it can reflect another face of ‘attachment’, the word we tackled in the last… Read more

7 tips to improve your relationship with yourself and everybody else

August 27, 2017 This is the fourth in a series of posts exploring terms that are sometimes over-used and under-defined.  This time we’re going to talk about attachments.  It’s a plus when we’re attached in healthy ways to our partners, families, friends and co-workers. But attachments can turn on us.  Unhealthy attachments… Read more

A mindfulness gift and a request for help

August 13, 2017 THE GIFT The gift is my brand new Mindfulness Playbook.  You can find it here.  It’s a collection of slogans that have arisen organically from years of watching how minds work.  It’s an opportunity for you to playfully explore ideas.  Don’t take any of them too seriously… Read more

About Love

August 6, 2017 “Love, What life is all about …”  Leo Buscaglia Love seems to be one of the least understood and most over-used words in the English Language.  Most of us think we’re pretty good at it, until we realize we struggle to define it for ourselves, much less reach… Read more


July 23, 2017 This is the second in a short series of posts clarifying some common, and sometimes overly used, terms. The topic is codependency.  I’ll attempt to 1) clarify it, 2) normalize it, and 3) offer a reframe for how to look at it. Codependency is when you believe… Read more


July 10, 2017 This is the first in a series exploring terms that seem to create confusion or make people’s hair stand on end, either from shame or in judgment of someone else. Boundaries… You need to have healthy boundaries! They have crossed a boundary they shouldn’t have! You better… Read more

Taking responsibility = taking action

June 22, 2017 It’s so easy to see what’s wrong with ‘them’.  And once we’ve seen it, talking about it with anyone who will listen, ad nauseam, is a great distraction from how impotent or frustrated we feel. The boss is an idiot, the guy who voted for the ‘wrong’… Read more

Want to reduce your suffering?

June 4, 2017 Let’s explore pain and how you might develop a different relationship to it. The idea is that by changing your perspective — your thoughts and attitudes about pain — you can change how you experience it. Sounds crazy, I know.  Pain is pain. But is it? Pain… Read more