February 2, 2020 If you want to know who you are, have a child or two. I suspect that if you are a parent still in the process of supporting your children into adulthood or looking back at how it was, it hasn’t been easy. And you are not alone. We parents are better at …
What’s Your “Go-to-Place?”
January 19, 2020 Our “go-to-place” is where we go when we’ve reached our limit. We all have a breaking point — that place where life throws a bit too much, and we believe we can’t handle one more thing. Just like a computer program, it’s an emotional default where we revert automatically to a preselected …
We Must Learn How to Ask Expansive Questions
January 5, 2020 The idea of skillful questioning compliments my never-ending quest to become a better listener. Sometimes a question is more than just a question. When it’s an expression of authentic curiosity, kindness, or genuine concern–it becomes more. Expansive questions have the power to heal and bring us together. Krista Tippett, an American philosopher, …
A Rich Life Is Not Just a Matter of Chance
December 22, 2019 “We are the average of the five people with whom we spend the most time.” At least that’s what Jim Rohn, a well-known motivational speaker, thinks. And I agree. Who and what we surround ourselves with play a huge role in the degree of our happiness. Let’s make sure we’re hanging out …
Hearts Don’t Just Break…They Break Open
December 8, 2019 They grow too big to hold what’s inside, and they break open. The only way to get at the good stuff is to let them break. Having experienced this more than once, I speak with confidence. Hearts break open with joy as well as sadness. A broken-open heart is how love shows …
A Better Way to Be With Family on Thanksgiving
November 26, 2019 You just received a Seedlings this past Sunday, but I wanted to touch base again and offer some thoughts for this year’s Thanksgiving holiday. Please go here to read more. Have a peaceful and rich Thanksgiving, however you choose to celebrate it. Much love,
About Love, and How to Make it Less Confusing
November 24, 2019 “Love, what life is all about.” — Leo Buscaglia In the United States, unlike some other countries like Poland — where they have different words for loving people, vs food, vs objects — we use the word “love” for everything from how we feel about our romantic partner, our children, and our friends, …
Healthy Boundaries Keep Us Sane
November 10, 2019 What the heck is a boundary, anyway? It reminds me of the somewhat polar term, codependency, a word thrown around so loosely that its meaning has been watered down to become almost meaningless. Wikipedia defines personal boundaries as “guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible …
Take Settling Off the Table!
October 27, 2019 This post isn’t about me, although I’m using examples from my life. It’s about everybody who’s ever felt trapped in a life they didn’t consciously design, and they want more. When we tolerate living in a world where we are getting less than what we want, well . . . that’s what …
Confidential – You Will Never Be Perfect!
But it’s Okay. October 13, 2019 One of the most significant discoveries of the 20th century is that our brains are subject to change. For centuries we believed we were stuck with what we got. Meaning if we didn’t have our acts together by the time we were five-years-old, we would go through life with …