September 30, 2018 Over the last year I have had plenty of time for self-reflection. I’ve been less mobile due to a car accident that was both a blessing and a curse. The mixed blessings are that I lost a car I loved, but I have a great new car with every safety feature known …
You can trust the magic of new beginnings
September 16, 2018 “And suddenly you just know it’s time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings.” — Meister Eckhart What’s really going on between us and those we love? Why are relationship so hard? When we’re not sure who we are, or what we stand for, it can get confusing. When I’m uncomfortable with myself, …
Your Life is not About You
September 2, 2018 Imperfection and perfection go so hand in hand, and our dark and our light are so intertwined, that by trying to push the darkness or negative aspects of our life to the side…we are preventing ourselves from the fullness of life. – Jeff Bridges – Your life is not about you. Your …
Authenticity is Coming Home to Your Best Self
August 19, 2018 Authenticity stems from mental and emotional health. It reflects qualities that represent maturity, thoughtfulness, and psychological flexibility. It speaks to an awareness that being true to oneself means being aware of your strengths and limitations, and working to develop characteristics that add to the well-being of others. AUTHENTICITY IS NOT: Telling it …
6 ways hidden defensiveness can sabotage you
August 5, 2018 Defensiveness can feel like self-protection. That sounds like a good thing. Is it always? Sometimes it can be. When we are in real danger, it’s critical to recognize it and defend ourselves appropriately. That may mean walking away (or running) to remove ourselves from a dangerous situation, or responding with a firm …
Envision the world shepherded by heart and mind
July 22, 2018 What would the world look like if it were shepherded by heart AND mind? I read a commencement speech by Pancho Ramos Stierle to the San Francisco Waldorf High School Class of 2018. He coined the term heartmindfulness. He seems to understand, with a piercing awareness, the frailty and fragility of our …
Boundaries can help us love each other better
July 8, 2018 People often use the word “boundaries” without knowing exactly what a boundary is. Or they think a boundary is a wall. Not necessarily. That’s all I’m going to say about walls today! My favorite definition is that boundaries are internal understandings that help us love each other better. So you see, boundaries are …
Want a different life? Set three intentions.
June 24, 2018 If you want a different life, here is a recipe. It’s mostly practical, with a little magic thrown in. 1. Be like Ghandi. He said: “Be the change that you want to see in the world.” There may be other ways to change the world. But starting from that premise, changing me, not …
If You Want a Rich Life, Keep it Personal
June 10, 2018 I work in a field that involves my heart. Not the organ, but rather the emotional center of me. As a psychotherapist I’ve been trained and advised and encouraged to not let it get personal. When I hear things like that I’m struck by the irony that if the work I do …
5 simple strategies to get the cooperation you want
May 27, 2018 “If you can’t explain it to a 6 year old, you don’t understand it yourself.” Albert Einstein Einstein’s wisdom seems compatible with a communication faux pas I discovered when my son was around 14. I was kvetching about something that was disappointing me (about him). When I stopped to take a breath, I …