Being nice — gift or curse?

November 30, 2016 One of the first things I encourage clients to do is identify their greatest strengths, and then when they’re ready, to keep looking.  Because buried deep within those strengths, they may also find their greatest limitations. Take me as an example.  I’m told I’m a strong communicator.  I like hearing that!  I …

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United we stand…divided we fall

November 12, 2016 It’s been a rocky year.  I felt afraid before the election and notice I feel afraid after the election.  Much of the world seems afraid.  Regardless of which side we’re on, we want things to change…for the better…whatever our personal ‘better’ may be. So what to do? My experience is that fear …

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OS upstages AP

October 31, 2016 If you’ve read past Seedlings you’re familiar with the term automatic pilot (AP), a state in which you’re unaware of what you’re doing.  Your body may be here but your mind is there.  Switching between the past and the future – remembering or planning. Automatic pilot is our default – when we’re …

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What to do when you’re thrown out of the nest

October 12, 2016 “To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.”  Pema Chodron We’re thrown out of the nest when we don’t get something we want, or do get something we don’t want. I get surprised every time.  I have a string of sunny days …

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What do you want them to say about you?

September 28, 2016 In an On Being article Courtney Martin asked herself the question:  “What are the three words you would like people to use to describe you when you’re not in the room?” This sounded like a great exercise, so I did it.  Here are mine: LISTENING Anybody who’s followed my blog for a while …

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My secret weapon

September 12, 2016 Our children need to know they can rely on us.  They can’t do that until we know that we can rely on ourselves. Over the years nothing knocked me off center more than when my child was in pain.  Sometimes the emotional pain is harder to deal with than the broken bones. …

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Living life as a movie character?

September 2, 2016 A recent series of events punctured my happy bubble and for a few days I was tossed around in a turbulent sea of shame. Come on, is shame even necessary?  I’m a therapist – wouldn’t you think I’d have gotten past that dreary emotion?? I don’t know if it’s necessary.  But my …

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Communication doesn’t have to be a crapshoot!

August 12, 2016 The fact that we occasionally connect in a meaningful way through communication is a miracle. It’s lovely when that connection – a meeting of the minds and hearts – happens.  But more often than not it’s a crap shoot.  How often have you left an interaction feeling pretty good about yourself, only to …

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In search of your soul?

July  24, 2016 “Somewhere on the journey to progress, we seem to have lost our soul.” Kerplunk!  Buzz kill! I remembered that sentence from an article by Homaira Kabir about the need for awe in the workplace.  I don’t remember much else, but that line continues to echo in my head. It begs questions. What …

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Scared? Before you do anything, ask yourself a question

July 11, 2016 The question is:  who do you want to be? I woke up to a world that seems to have lost its mind.  Humans hurting humans.  Weather that makes no sense because it’s unprecedented in our short, recorded history.  And in the United States a political campaign that’s turned into a made for TV …

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