How to Get Big Results From Your Resentments

February 18, 2018 The weak can never forgive.  Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.  Mahatma Gandhi How often have you lost someone important because you just couldn’t let go of the belief that they betrayed you in some way? How many people have you sidelined because they didn’t live up to your expectations – …

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Projection — enemy or ally?

February 4, 2018 Like a butterfly, Flitting here, there. Touching hearts but Never being touched. This is a poem I wrote in high school about a friend with whom I didn’t feel an emotional connection.  At least not in a way that was meaningful to me.  I was anguished, as only an adolescent can be.  …

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Three simple steps to positive change

January 21, 2018 I’ve never met anyone – client, family member, or friend – who doesn’t want to live vibrantly.  But sometimes we get stuck and we need to shake things up. Change isn’t always easy.  But after years of working with clients (and myself) around change, I know that it doesn’t have to be …

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Wishes for us

January 7, 2018 After receiving an unwelcome diagnosis, Nina Riggs wrote in The Bright Hour, a Memoir of Living and Dying: “There are so many things that are worse than death: old grudges, a lack of self-awareness, severe constipation, no sense of humor, the grimace on your husband’s face as he empties your surgical drain …

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Five steps to take charge of your 2018

December 31, 2017 Step 1: Pick 5 focus words for 2018. Choose words that will help you get in touch with unexperienced parts of yourself:  zany, emotional, hilarious, charismatic, responsible, stable, flexible, compassionate, courageous, spontaneous, bold, kind, authentic – whatever you say you’re not, pick a word that will help you meet up with that …

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Three simple questions

December 17, 2017 Attention – where’s yours? What comes naturally is to be lost in the past or the future. Past:  ruminating about what happened, or didn’t happen.  You’re reliving every miserable moment and stressing your body just like it was stressed before.  Over and over and over.  Poor body! Future:  ruminating about what might …

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Making friends with our whole self

December 3, 2017 “…we can deliberate, so I believe only we are capable of true calculated evil.” Jane Goodall In this post I want to reframe something that we take for granted. We have several euphemisms for what I’m talking about –  the most common being shadow side or dark side.  We talk about peeling …

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Your internal compass won’t let you down

November 12, 2017 “I’d always thought telling the truth to other people was hard, but maybe that was a snap compared to telling the truth to yourself.  Sometimes we just refuse to know what we know.”  Deb Caletti Your inner compass won’t let you down, but getting to it can be tough.  It means changing …

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Relationship game changer #2

10/29/17 “The best gift you are ever going to give someone is permission to feel safe in their own skin.  To feel worthy.  To feel like they are enough.”  Hannah Brencher Game changer #2 applies equally to every relationship we have – partners, children, parents, co-workers, friends and acquaintances. If we want to get the …

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Relationship game changer

October 15, 2017 There is no perfect partner. For most of us, a primary goal in all our relationships is to feel good, or at least better, about ourselves.  What more satisfying way to do that than to find the perfect partner? In romantic relationships in particular, what it takes to feel good in the …

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