May 13, 2018 I’ve been toying with the idea of writing a memoir. I haven’t gotten very far. I got caught up in the idea that what seems most important to me at the moment is not what I have done, or been through, but rather what I have learned. As I was playing with …
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Want to Know How to Rein in the Monkey in Your Mind?
April 29, 2018 When you’re feeling uncomfortable emotions, this is a quick, easy way to come back to yourself. NOTICE THE DISCOMFORT You know when something feels off. (In fact we’re better at noticing when something’s wrong than when things are right.) We all have a monkey in our mind, leading us on endless chases …
Imagine This is the Last Day of Your Life
April 15, 2018 You’ve heard this question before. It may have resonated, but then you went on with your day, not paying it more attention than that. Consider taking a moment now to be with it in a different, more thoughtful, way — it may be one of the most powerful questions you’ll ever ask …
How to Love the One You Have
… not the one in the romance novel. April 1, 2018 What’s at the core of our relationship problems? What keeps us from loving, and from feeling loved? What gets in the way of the closeness and connectedness that every one of us profoundly wants? WE WANT THEM TO BE OTHER THAN THEY ARE. …
How to Be a Curious Scientist and Reduce Your Pain
… and anything else that’s bothering you. March 18, 2018 You’ve tried everything you can think of to feel happy with yourself exactly as you are. You’ve listened to the podcasts, read the blogs, and taken courses about loving yourself. But no matter how much you read about somebody else’s successes, you can’t lose the …
How to Be an Uncommonly Mature Adult
March 5, 2018 “When we don’t get what we want, and we believe our thoughts and concepts about other people or events we tend to be manipulative, and our life has little compassion. A life of compassion is non manipulative. We don’t try to change anyone other than ourself.” Joko Beck Most of …
How to Get Big Results From Your Resentments
February 18, 2018 The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Mahatma Gandhi How often have you lost someone important because you just couldn’t let go of the belief that they betrayed you in some way? How many people have you sidelined because they didn’t live up to your expectations – …
Projection — enemy or ally?
February 4, 2018 Like a butterfly, Flitting here, there. Touching hearts but Never being touched. This is a poem I wrote in high school about a friend with whom I didn’t feel an emotional connection. At least not in a way that was meaningful to me. I was anguished, as only an adolescent can be. …
Three simple steps to positive change
January 21, 2018 I’ve never met anyone – client, family member, or friend – who doesn’t want to live vibrantly. But sometimes we get stuck and we need to shake things up. Change isn’t always easy. But after years of working with clients (and myself) around change, I know that it doesn’t have to be …
Wishes for us
January 7, 2018 After receiving an unwelcome diagnosis, Nina Riggs wrote in The Bright Hour, a Memoir of Living and Dying: “There are so many things that are worse than death: old grudges, a lack of self-awareness, severe constipation, no sense of humor, the grimace on your husband’s face as he empties your surgical drain …