November 1, 2020 Mature listening involves three things when you are in disagreement with someone about anything. I’ve been studying listening most of my adult life, and I still don’t have it nailed. I’m writing this post to myself, but I hope you’ll relate. Since I don’t have all that much time left — at least not …
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You’re Dying–We All Are
October 18, 2020 If you knew you were dying, what would you choose to do with every day you had left? Whether you have twenty, forty, or sixty years — even though sixty years sounds like a long time — it will glide past like the Shanghai Magiev in China that cruises by at 267.8 …
Turn Complaints Into Accomplishments
October 4, 2020 The boss is incompetent, the guy who voted for the “wrong” candidate is a moron, the child who isn’t taking the career path of your choice is a disappointment. And the state of the world in general, don’t even start! It’s so easy to see what’s wrong with the world and everyone …
Using Mindfulness to Reduce Physical Discomfort
September 19, 2020 This post was originally posted in early 2017. I moved last weekend and rather than skip a publication date, I updated this post that seemed to be a favorite. Hope that you enjoy it. If you want to reduce your suffering, change your relationship to pain. The idea is that by changing …
How to Stop Letting Fear of Discomfort Keep You Stuck
September 5, 2020 We get unstuck when we meet life on life’s terms. Because impermanence is one of the few things we can count on, discomfort is, to our dismay, part of the human condition. In spite of our spiritual leanings and our beliefs about an afterlife, the idea of impermanence keeps us off-center. We …
If You Want to Make a Difference, Be Purposeful in Where You Put Your Attention
August 9, 2020 We don’t have to be famous, wealthy, or brilliant to make a difference. If enough of us regular people hang together, we can change the world. But before we can do that, we need to make conscious decisions about where we’re going to put our attention, and in what we’ll invest our …
What Do You Want People to Say about You When You’re Not in the Room?
July 26, 2020 Figure out what you long to experience and let that be your guide. In an On Being article, Our Inescapable Selves, blogger Courtney E. Martin asked herself a question. “What are three things you want people to say about you when you’re not in the room?” I loved the idea of this exercise, and since …
In Search of Honorable Relationships
July 12, 2020 Honorable relationships depend on our ability to explore the things we believe we can’t talk about. Emotional intimacy requires that we ask the questions, even when we’re not sure we want to hear the answers. Life is a touchingly brief opportunity to taste just about anything our hearts desire. Love, then, is …
You Are Who You Repeatedly Tell Yourself You Are
June 28, 2020 You’ve heard it before. Change your mindset, and your world will transform. “To become a different kind of person is to experience the world differently. When your mind changes, the world changes. And when we respond differently to the world, the world responds differently to us.” — David Loy, in “Rethinking Karma” We …
Want Your Relationships to Take Off– In a Good Way?
June 14, 2020 Turn the tables and give others what it is that you want to get from them—a sense of safety. The best gift you are ever going to give someone is permission to feel safe in their own skin. To feel worthy. To feel like they are enough. —Hannah Brencher This idea is a …