Learn to take reasonable risks and use lots of discretion in listening to others’ advice. May 22, 2022 Living a big life takes courage. To over and over stand at the edge of a metaphorical cliff and take a step, not knowing the exact outcome. Each time you take a reasonable risk, you …
How to Turn a Conflict into a Conversation
Master the art of managing yourself, not them. May 8, 2022 People will always see the world through different lenses. We can turn that into a problem or learn to manage ourselves like class acts when conflict rears its gnarly head. Whether you’re at work, at home, or shopping at your local deli, you …
Do the Opposite of What Comes Naturally, and Change the Course of Your Life
Get the truth from someone you trust, but brace yourself for what you might hear. April 24, 2022 Coaches and mentors come in all shapes and sizes. If you are ready for change, look for people who hold a mirror up to your approaches, who ask challenging questions, and who offer you relevant feedback that …
How to Use a Two-Part Strategy to Make Your, and Someone Else’s, Day Better
And remember, we all want the same thing. April 10, 2022 So says Peter Kaufman, a storehouse of information on living life well. He’s the CEO of Glenair, an aerospace company based in California, and the editor of Poor Charlie’s Almanack, a book about Charlie Munger. You’ve probably never heard of him. I hope to help …
Mindfulness Practice Doesn’t Make You Perfect
It won’t even eliminate discomfort — but if you embrace it, your life will be richer. March 27, 2022 If you seriously engage in a mindfulness practice it will almost certainly help you learn to laugh at yourself, or at least take yourself — your thoughts and beliefs — a bit less seriously. And who doesn’t need a little of …
How to Live Above the Line
And get back quickly when you fall below. March 13, 2022 Georgia O’Keeffe said, I have been afraid every moment of my life, and it hasn’t kept me from doing anything. I too have been afraid every moment of my life, and sometimes it has kept me from doing things. I don’t think anybody arrives at perfect …
Embrace Five Words to Create Change in Your Life
And they’re not “You can never have enough.” February 27, 2022 Don’t get me wrong. Financial and material stability matter to me — I never want to become a burden. But if you want more out of life than financial and material stability, consider what my first master’s program professor, Dr. Froehling, said …
You Don’t Have to Stay Angry to Get What You Want
But you DO need to know what you want. February 13. 2022 I looked at the couple facing me on a couch in my office. He was dumbfounded when she told him she wanted to end their marriage. She was seething. For years she’d been telling her partner what was wrong. And she …
Let’s Stop Preaching Self-Esteem–We Need Something Else
Instead, we need to be teaching self-efficacy. January 30, 2022 Self-esteem relies on external approval. I hear, “You look great today!” and my self-esteem soars. But tomorrow, when I hear, “Hmm, “You cut your hair,” with no ‘it looks great’ follow through, my self-esteem plummets. “Oh no, it must look awful. I must …
Today I Woke Up to the Present Moment
And I’m ready for it. January 16, 2022 It happened last week. I had an epiphany. I’ve spent enough time with the past. I understand what happened, what it did to me, and where I need work. It’s time to stay firmly planted in the present. I’ve uncovered, explored, and to some degree, …