April 5, 2016 The term ‘values’ is almost as widely used these days as the ‘mindfulness’ word. The global instability we’re experiencing has made values a priority for many of us who never thought much about them before. We didn’t need to think about them. We were riding high. And if we weren’t currently riding …
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Tired of not connecting?
March 20, 2016 Real conversation is an oral exchange of ideas, observations, sentiments or opinions–the operative word being exchange. In a conversation, presentations and monologues are out. An exchange suggests we both get something. This post is about how to hedge your bets so that you’ll be a little closer to getting what you want from your …
Is happiness a feeling or a perspective?
March 8, 2016 The surgeon general, Vivek Murthy, says happiness is a perspective. I tend to agree with him, in spite of scientific evidence that some of us are more prone to glass half empty vs glass half full vision. I agree in spite of the privileges or lack of them that some of us …
You’re just too sensitive!
February 22, 2016 If you’ve been called too sensitive, you’re likely no stranger to feelings like failure, fear, disappointment, confusion, surprise, longing, loneliness, frustration, anger, grief and boredom. Welcome to having a heart that can break. Welcome to caring about others’ breaking hearts. Welcome to being curious. Welcome to wanting to understand. Welcome to asking …
Four questions to kick-start a stalled life
February 8, 2016 Four questions for you (me/us): What would be left undone if you died today? How can you live most fully in whatever time you have left (regardless of any limitations you may have – and I mean any)? What are you putting off till you have more money, motivation, time, energy, support, …
Wise old crone?!
January 25, 2016 Woke up this morning to some simple thoughts on aging and what aging has done for me, aside from providing a profound awareness of the impermanence of everything in my life, even life itself. Whether I like it or not, it’s earned me the title wise old crone, which to my horror …
An honorable human relationship
January 10, 2016 Life is a touchingly brief opportunity to taste just about anything your heart might desire. Love is an opportunity to savor what you taste. But real love takes courage. In my work with couples who come in for pre-marital counseling, we often explore the idea that the only things that actually need …
The big divide
January 3, 2016 We’re used to listening by comparing what’s being said to what we already think we know, from a place of agree or disagree. This is the beginning of the big divide. The divide starts out small, with a little thought or idea that we casually throw out in response to someone else’s …
Being quiet occasionally
December 28, 2015 I started practicing being quiet occasionally (a euphemism for shutting up) many years ago. At the time I had the patience and attention span of a gerbil. My lack of patience, and inability to choose the focus of my attention, created problems in every area of my life. Getting quiet was my …
Vision for Partners in Mindful Living
12/13/15 At the end of each year I look at Partners in Mindful Living through new eyes. It’s that time. This year the first step has been to rewrite my vision statement. After convincing myself to dream big, with sweating palms I shared my first draft with some dear and respected friends. I was afraid that having a big vision …