March 5, 2013 Have you ever worked really hard to change what you know is a self-defeating or unattractive behavior only to find that no one notices? You’ve improved to the point that nine times out of ten you react more healthily than in the past, but the only thing that gets noticed is the …
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What Are You Waiting For?
2-18-13 What’s that thing that floats around at the back of your mind, that thing that’s a barrier to living the life you want to live? That thing that pushes you to begin your sentences with ‘when I get rid of …., then I’ll have the life I want, the life I’m supposed to have’. …
More Than Two Sides To The Story
2-9-13 The decision triangle is a tool to help you problem-solve around a tough interpersonal decision. I don’t remember where I found it—I’m pretty sure I didn’t come up with it—but I’ve been using it forever. The triangle, of course, has three sides. The first side reflects my needs and responsibilities in a situation. Side …
Five Minutes To Fine
1-27-13 Periodically I throw out a few words on why to meditate, or barriers to look out for, or tips for a more satisfying experience. Today I simply want to offer a gentle nudge in case you’re sitting on the fence about whether or not to give meditation a try. Give it five minutes. Simply …
A Big Fat Thank You
1-16-13 I can’t believe it! I pushed send on my first Seedlings blog post on 12/4/11. It’s been over a year and there have been 40 blog posts to date. My biggest fear was that I’d run out of things to say. Hah! The good news and the bad news is that I kind of …
Blame Schlame – Skip It!
January 6, 2013 “When something doesn’t work in your life, assume that you’re operating on false information.” Brilliant! I read that and thought, “I can skip the entire blame song and dance!” No more shaming myself into the fetal position because I’ve blown it, or digging for who’s right/who’s wrong. No more exhausting self-righteous indignation …
On Being Kind
12-29-12 Recently someone told me he only believes in hard science and doesn’t pay attention to anything he can’t ‘prove’. That got me thinking. How much of my behavior is determined by my particular religious or spiritual beliefs? Do I choose to behave in certain ways because I have the belief that someone or something …
Whatever It Takes
12/20/12 Do whatever it takes–that’s my 2013 mantra. It was inspired by one of my clients. He’s a newly single dad whose 9 year old daughter came to him and said, “Dad, can you do a French braid?” My client, who’s a guy’s guy with a buzz cut, laughed hysterically–inside–and with a seriousness that would have done …
Whining About Anything In Particular?
12-3-12 My whining theme de jour is “I should get caught up”. I woke up crazy early this morning with that thought. I should be on top of all of it–my personal finances, the admin of my business, finishing the book and clothes purge I’ve been in the middle of for months–and the list goes …
The Day After
November 23, 2012 I think we do a pretty good job of being grateful. We keep gratitude journals and review our days to maintain an ongoing awareness of the blessing in our lives. At the same time, on the day after, I’m realizing that in spite of noticing and expressing gratitude for the blessings in …