March 23, 2014 We’re all hardwired with a need to feel connected to others. When that connection is severed because someone has been judged as ‘the enemy’, and that includes yourself, it usually has the same outcome—when you’re disconnected you’re in some degree of pain. Here’s the truth. We’re all way more alike than different. …
Are Your Eyes Closed When They’re Open?
March 15, 2014 How often are you really present, open hearted and curious? Here’s how it goes for me. I start my day with the intention to keep my heart open, to be curious and interested, no matter how difficult things get. But then someone doesn’t cooperate, I don’t get my way, I’m not understood. …
Want People To Trust You More?
March 6, 2014 Here’s an easy and powerful way to make someone feel like they matter, strengthen your relationship with them, and correct a problem all at the same time. In a recent blog post, Seth Godin offered a few key words that are critical if you want to respond effectively to a gently offered …
Use Your Body
2-23-14 Crazy as it may sound, your mind doesn’t always know when you’re in pain – physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually—but your body always knows. Your mind is often so busy that you can have big in-your-face symptoms without even recognizing that your body is screaming: “Stop! Listen to me – I’m here to help!” Here’s …
Your Brilliance Is In The Pause
February 16, 2014 You’re triggered! Something awful has happened. He/she/it isn’t cooperating and you’re powerless over whatever it is that life just handed you. Whether it’s catastrophic or a loss as small as they’ve stopped making your favorite cookies, here’s a fast, elegant way to soothe, ground, and bring yourself back to your brilliant, capable self. …
What’s Your “Go To”?
February 8, 2014 Every one of you has a breaking point. And a place you ‘go to’ when you’ve hit the limit and believe you can’t handle one more thing. Personally, when I hit that point I seamlessly ‘go to’ blaming. Charming, huh? I blame you, the system, the weather—if you/it would just cooperate and …
Exorcism?
January 31, 2014 A client gave me the idea for this post. He wondered if I could perform an exorcism to get rid of some of his unwanted thoughts. Essentially an exorcism is the expulsion or attempted expulsion of an evil spirit from a person or place. The problem with that approach is that if we …
Not Just For The Children
January 24, 2014 I once used a 3rd grade algebra book to learn enough algebra to pass a college math test. I just ran into another opportunity to learn along with children. Click here for the link to a project that’s transforming the experience of elementary school children from out of control and chaotic to one that is fostering a degree of …
I Understand
January 17, 2014 Hmmm…do I really? We think we understand, yet often we’re talking at each other from two seemingly different planets. When I meet with couples I see them individually first, and then together. In our first ‘together’ session, I can almost always sincerely say, “Well, I’ve heard both your stories. They bear no …
A Part Of Me…
January 9, 2014 Lately I’ve been using the words ‘a part of me’ to begin my sentences when I notice I’m struggling with something. Example: ‘a part of me thinks I’m a self-absorbed idiot’, or ‘a part of me wants to give up’, or ‘a part of me thinks I should or shouldn’t feel____’, (insert …