March 23, 2014
We’re all hardwired with a need to feel connected to others. When that connection is severed because someone has been judged as ‘the enemy’, and that includes yourself, it usually has the same outcome—when you’re disconnected you’re in some degree of pain.
Here’s the truth. We’re all way more alike than different. We all bleed. At our core we all want to love and understand others. We all want to feel loved and understood.
So try this mindfulness exercise: for an entire day, when you pass someone or think of someone who in your mind you’ve made ‘the enemy’, breathe in to “I see you”, breathe out to “you are just like me”.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. Especially the ones that start with ‘What the hell are you talking about!!?? They’re just like me!!?? No way, I’d never do what they do, be as bad as they are, act/think/feel/express the way they do!!”
It’s okay. Start there. Just try it for a day. At the end of the day notice if that slight shift in perspective has created a change in how you see or respond to them. Are you making choices that are a little more elegant? Do you feel a little wiser, a little bit stronger or more confident? And most importantly, do you feel a little more at home in your own skin and a little less alone?
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