April 2, 2017
I came across five questions in an awakin.org interview. They grabbed me.
My answers are profoundly different than they would have been twenty, ten or even five years ago. I suspect that five years into the future, if I go through this exercise again, my answers will reflect new experiences and new learnings. I’m looking forward to that.
I’m hoping that the questions will stimulate you to do a bit of your own soul searching.
1. What Makes You Come Alive?
What makes me come alive today is not what I thought would make me come alive when I dreamed about being a grown-up. Back then I wanted to fit in but stand out at the same time, and I wanted people to like me. So I would be or do whatever I thought was necessary to make that happen. Because the alternative felt like death. Today what makes me come alive is being emotionally connected with another human being while at the same time being as fully myself, as real, as I can possibly be.
2. Your Greatest Inspiration?
My greatest inspiration has been the idea that I am limited, in large part, only by my ability to imagine. I always suspected that the idea that our brains were unchangeable after early childhood was bunk. Today the idea of neuroplasticity has validated that suspicion and inspired me to endlessly explore and learn and grow. Even just the thought of what I don’t yet know or understand inspires me to push myself beyond my comfort zone. To take risks even when I don’t know what the outcome will be. Failure no longer matters the way it once did. Today what matters is how far I can go.
3. An Act of Kindness You’ll Never Forget?
A friend was kind enough, loved me enough, to tell me that something I’d said long ago was keeping her from fully trusting me. That prompted my awareness that apologizing to her might be only the first in a line of apologies to others in my past who I had discounted with my opinions about how they should live their lives. It was a recent kindness. And it was a game-changer.
4. One Thing On Your Bucket List?
Having an unbroken string of 365 daily meditations. I want to see who I’d be.
5. One-line Message for the World?
You can’t know what you don’t know before you know it, so give yourself a break.
Love to hear your answers to any or all of the questions! Please comment or email, and share this if you know anyone who might get a kick out of digging a little deeper than usual.