June 17, 2014
We’re face to face having a conversation, or I hang up the phone, or finish reading the email, or the text, and I notice I feel disappointed. Because you didn’t respond the way I expected, or hoped, or wanted you to.
We’re not the same.
You don’t see what I see, think what I think, feel what I feel, understand what I understand. You are uniquely you. And If I remember that, I will allow you to be that, and I will stop being disappointed by it. Maybe I’ll even benefit from it. Because I’ll learn from you.
Socrates said: “Employ your time in improving yourself by other men’s writings, so that you shall gain easily what others have labored hard for”. I want to expand that. I want to learn not only from everyone else’s writings, but also from their behaviors, their ideas and opinions. I want to appreciate and learn from our differences rather than be disappointed by them. I’m thinking if I can do that, I’ll have a shot at true wisdom.
This idea fits elegantly with something else I’ve noticed. I don’t need to enlighten you about you or enlighten you about me. I need to enlighten me about me. And one of the ways I can do that is to learn from you.