September 4, 2014
For the most part, I’m average. Although I’ve spent a lifetime trying to prove to you and me that I’m exceptional.
And yes, in a couple of areas I stand out a bit. I’m a pretty strong communicator. (But clearly not totally kick ass because I haven’t had one blog go viral, nor have I written a book!). I’m an engaged and busy therapist and coach. (But do you have any idea how much schooling, how many books, and how much time, energy and sweat have gone into me knowing what I know?! Maybe that means I’m also a bit of an exceptional student?) And I think possibly I’m getting better at being a friend.
So, although there are a few things I’m quite good at, there are also a few things that I’m really, really terrible at. I pretty much suck at anything to do with spacial relationships (i.e. virtually no sense of direction; can’t put together empty boxes without help; don’t get geometry; and judging distances feels like a sixth or seventh sense that I don’t possess); algebra; tennis; statistics; details; patience (although if I do say so myself, I am making progress on the patience thing).
Here’s the shocker that ultimately became one of the most relaxing aha’s I’ve had: the ways that I’m average are too numerous to list! Start with anything not listed above :).
The punchline is that there are so many ways we can torture and shape ourselves into pretzels in an effort to look exceptional, they’re beyond counting–and we don’t have to do that!!! By the way, nobody else cares. They’d prefer that we’re average, right? So that they can feel exceptional!
Who decided we had to be exceptional at everything? Or that we have to give 100% to everything we do? There are just some things I could care less about…geometry, statistics, tennis, computer programming, house cleaning…and some other things that matter enough for me to work on though they don’t come naturally…patience, details, daily workouts and meditation, consistency, being the best friend I can be.
Won’t the things I suck at and don’t care about best be done by someone who doesn’t suck at them??!!
So what do you say? Any interest in giving yourself a break?