August 4, 2013
‘Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly and not looking good while doing it.’ This may be one of the singular most important lessons I’ve learned.
I was raised on the adage that ‘anything worth doing is worth doing well’. Belief in that one-liner has kept me from having as much fun as I know I’m meant to have. I’ve not only deprived myself of new experiences. I’ve also eliminated experiences I previously enjoyed by adding my own tagline ‘and you have to look good while doing it’ . Depending on the year, I’ve deprived myself of playing the piano, drawing, painting, dancing, singing, running in the rain—because I’m either not good at it, I don’t look good doing it, or I’m afraid of it (for both previously stated reasons)!?#@*
Well no more!! The rest of 2013 is my half year of finding and breaking hidden, unspoken, unconscious rules around what I can/can’t do. Here are the ones I broke last weekend. And just for the record, with both of them, I neither looked good nor was I good at them.
Never wear shorts after menopause. I haven’t worn shorts in years and I used to look forward to summer just to wear shorts because I thought I had great legs. So to break the rule in public I put on a pair of shorts and filled up the tires on the bike that I haven’t ridden in a couple years. I was tentative and unsure on the bike and I promise you I didn’t look good. And just for good measure I also broke the rule that I can never wear anything on my head because my hair will look weird when I take it off. I got a helmet and used it. So I didn’t look good, I wasn’t good at it, and I was mildly afraid I was going to crash and burn. And guess what?! Nobody cared!! People smiled and said “Hey” when we passed each other, and I had a really great ride!
Now I’m looking for new rules to break and new things to do poorly. I’d love to hear some of your rules and whether or not you’re willing to break them. So please leave a comment.