April 2, 2017 Years ago I read an article that offered five questions that made a difference in my life. Career and family were great, but I was sort of drifting in other areas. I wasn’t taking vacations or meeting new people, other than clients. I update it every few years. My answers have reflected …
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March 19, 2017 Being human means that we’re attracted to what feels good, and resistant to what doesn’t. That’s the ground of our humanness, and a primary cause of our fear and suffering. Aware of it or not, we bounce between those two states all day, every day, throughout our lives. Always with the intention …
Fact of life: relationships are difficult
February 26, 2017 Scott Peck opened his book, The Road Less Traveled, with the statement “Life is difficult”. With those three words I nominate him for an award for all-time best opening line of any book. I’m opening with “Relationships are difficult”. Relationships with people we care about are hard. We need all the help we …
What makes a question more than just a question?
February 12, 2017 A question becomes more than just a question when it’s transformed from a superficial or challenging statement into an expression of love. The image above is the infinity symbol – two circles elegantly and inextricably linked. Read on to see what they represent–the most fundamental components of your relationship toolbox. In Becoming Wise: …
If you let go of some of the rules … chaos?
January 18, 2017 How many of your decisions are really your decisions? I’ve been looking back at my life and taking inventory. I’m wondering how many of my decisions have been decisions that: others wanted me to make; or that my younger, less experienced self would make; or that I think I ‘should’ make because …
Hearts don’t just break — they break open
December 31, 2016 Hearts don’t just break — they grow too big to hold what’s inside, and they open. Robyn Norman Having experienced a broken open heart more than once, I know from whence I speak. I’ve learned that the only way to get at the good stuff is to let our hearts break open. And hearts break …
My ‘right’ or your ‘right’
December 15, 2015 What would happen if I didn’t cave in to the hard-wired compulsion to be right that seems to live in me and in almost everyone I know? If I didn’t need to be right I might ask more questions and offer fewer declarations – which might open the door for you to …
Being nice — gift or curse?
November 30, 2016 One of the first things I encourage clients to do is identify their greatest strengths, and then when they’re ready, to keep looking. Because buried deep within those strengths, they may also find their greatest limitations. Take me as an example. I’m told I’m a strong communicator. I like hearing that! I …
United we stand…divided we fall
November 12, 2016 It’s been a rocky year. I felt afraid before the election and notice I feel afraid after the election. Much of the world seems afraid. Regardless of which side we’re on, we want things to change…for the better…whatever our personal ‘better’ may be. So what to do? My experience is that fear …
OS upstages AP
October 31, 2016 If you’ve read past Seedlings you’re familiar with the term automatic pilot (AP), a state in which you’re unaware of what you’re doing. Your body may be here but your mind is there. Switching between the past and the future – remembering or planning. Automatic pilot is our default – when we’re …