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United we stand…divided we fall

November 12, 2016

It’s been a rocky year.  I felt afraid before the election and notice I feel afraid after the election.  Much of the world seems afraid.  Regardless of which side we’re on, we want things to change…for the better…whatever our personal ‘better’ may be.

So what to do?

My experience is that fear begs for one or more of three things:  more information, more reassurance, more time.  I’m adding a fourth element because of the nature of the current unrest in the world:  A sense of personal power.  For many of us, the first three are achievable but the fourth element is harder to come by.

Here are a few things I’m exploring to reduce my own fear.


I have all the information in the world at my fingertips.  I can educate myself.  I need to know what I’m talking about before I shoot my mouth off or scream that the sky is falling.  It may actually be falling, but I need to understand why and how that’s happening, so that I can make reasonable and effective choices in how I handle it.

The last thing I want to do is add ignorance to ignorance.  That’s a cycle that’s almost impossible to interrupt.


I can reassure myself by standing up for what I believe in, without denigrating someone else for believing something different.  Challenging, to say the least.  I’m sitting with this one.

I’m not sure what standing up for what I believe in looks like for me personally.  I’m a word person, so I can talk about it, and write about it; but like I said, I’m sitting with it.  It occurs to me that something more may be required of me.  Maybe it’s as simple as offering reassurance to those who may not experience the same degree of privilege and freedom that I enjoy.  I can reassure them that I will support them and not turn my back.  And in reassuring them, I’m reassuring myself that I haven’t lost myself and what matters to me.


I can respect and take advantage of the wisdom that time offers.  Giving it time, sleeping on it, giving myself a time out, taking a break – all have served me well over the last few months.  There is a time for action and if I allow myself to be present, to pause, take a breath and soften my body, I know intuitively when it’s time to move or act.

My challenge is the tendency to act on impulse, to react immediately.  But when I give whatever is frightening me even a little bit of space and time to come back into perspective, I seldom regret it.  A great ‘give yourself a moment’ tool is to use the THINK acronym before speaking or acting:

T is it true?

H is it helpful?

I is it inspiring?

N is it necessary?

K is it kind?


Sometimes information, reassurance and time aren’t enough.  Sometimes what’s happening is so frightening that I need to call on my deepest self for the strength to push past my fear and continue to behave in ways that are in line with my integrity and values.  That’s when I remind myself that no one individual, no group, and no rule or law can change who I am on the inside, unless I let them.

We are in this together.  And we’re all going to need to dig deep to bring out our best selves to address the problems we’re facing.  United we stand…divided we fall.  Trite.  Every truism becomes trite because it’s used over and over.  When it’s the only thing that really says what needs to be said.  It applies to every area of our lives — at home, at work, at play.  United we stand.  Divided we fall.

Much love,


  1. Cindy Christensen says:

    So be it. After doing his best working toward an outcome that didn’t prevail, my father would accept the results and thoughtfully and calmly say, “So be it”. It didn’t change his resolve or convictions, just acceptance of what he could not change and he kept working on the outcomes he could influence. I heard his voice in my head as I learned the result of the elections. More people disagreed than agreed with my choice for President. So be it, I accept that. However I don’t accept that I lost my voice or that my opinions no
    longer matter. What I see for myself is a need to work at staying informed and involved. And then make my voice heard by informing others, making phone calls and sending emails to legislators and working with those who share my views. I feel like I’m a long way from my next So Be It.

    • Robyn says:

      Well said! I have a lot of work to do in terms of educating myself over the next four years, around all sides!

  2. Karen says:

    Thank you, Robyn. Words have escaped me. But you have filled in that void. Thank you for helping me to deal with the “fear.”
    You said it as only YOU can.

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