April 11, 2015 “Your flaws are what make you special.” John Cryer says that’s what he discovered while writing his new memoir ‘So That Happened’. He nailed it. We think, because we’re pretty much hard-wired to be herd animals, that being or behaving or looking different from everyone else makes us weird or somehow wrong. …
Self-Shaming
March 29, 2015 Is shaming yourself—marinating in the story about what you did or didn’t do, how you were or weren’t raised, or what you will or won’t do in the future—working for you? (Marinating is when you get so caught up in the story, AGAIN, that you actually experience the same physiological reactions you …
Wise Attention
March 15, 2015 Do you know where your attention is much of the time? Well, if you’re like most of us, it’s on what’s wrong! We’re hard-wired to notice what’s wrong. It’s a survival thing. You’ve probably read one of the bazillion articles out there about your reptile brain just trying to protect you. In …
Beliefs vs Delusions
March 4, 2015 A belief I hold (about myself) becomes a delusion when I continue to believe it in spite of evidence to the contrary. It gets tricky for me in that I can be pretty slick. Remember, I’m a psychotherapist! When my son was growing up I told him he had my permission to …
Resistance Part 2
February 20, 2015 Part 1 presented the idea of developing a new relationship with resistance. Let’s look at the actual how of that. Resistance is about refusing to accept something that is physically, mentally or emotionally painful or uncomfortable. Logically the simple alternative is to accept whatever shows up, whether it feels uncomfortable or not. …
Resistance Part 1
February 4, 2015 I call 2006 ‘the year of the surgeries’. I bring it up now because I’m exploring the theme of resistance as a barrier in my life. And I know that my family, friends and clients struggle with it as I do. If anything in my life has screamed for resistance to show up it …
Thank You
January 25, 2015 It’s been three plus years since I wrote the first Seedlings blog. And I had the thought that I’ve never really thanked you for continuing to inspire and motivate me to keep sharing the things I’ve learned from life, from the amazing people I’ve worked with, and from you. So thank you! …
Pause, Breathe, Notice Your Story, Soften Your Body
January 6, 2015 A while back I gave you a quick (takes seconds) process for calming your mind…any time, any place. The more I practice, the more powerful it seems. Clients are telling me it’s working for them. Pause – means just that. Stop whatever you’re doing so that you can check in with yourself before …
Sad-Glad
December 25, 2014 2014 has been an especially sad-glad year of losses, learnings, growth and loving. Sad because my mom recently passed, and glad for so many reasons I can’t count or even remember them all. But because it’s so fresh, mom’s loss is certainly top of mind. This short blog represents a learning, a …
Living Big
December 14, 2014 For much of my life I lived small. As I was growing up we moved many, many times. It’s only in hindsight I can see that I had a powerful and primary unconscious goal—to sneak in and out of new situations, in and out of life, without drawing too much attention to …