March 27, 2012
I received an email recently from a dear friend wondering, ‘How will I know when I’m happy’? Not what is happiness, or what isn’t. What a poignant question. Isn’t this question at the root of not only our deepest, most heart-felt desires, but also our most profound disappointments?
We’re inundated with books, movies, research projects and blog posts offering us someone else’s answers to this question. I’m astonished by the immediate access I have to others’ thoughts on just about any topic I can imagine. In thinking about my own happiness, the downside to immediate access to others’ ideas is that I can get confused. I can begin to lose myself in ways that are so subtle I hardly notice.
Have you ever woken up and realized you’ve bought into something, or are moving in a direction, that doesn’t quite fit you? Having an answer to this question may help to get you back on your own path.
I hope you’ll consider staying with the question, ‘How will I know when I’m happy’? Try not to rush to ‘the’ answer. If you find an answer that resonates, keep asking. There may be more answers, or an expansion of an answer you already have. This question gives us an opportunity to make sure our ladder is on the right wall.
I absolutely abhor the idea that ‘you made your bed, so lie in it’. My twist on that theme is ‘you made your bed, and if you don’t like, make it over’..
I invite you to comment with your own thoughts about how you know when you’re happy, recognizing that there are absolutely zero rights or wrongs with this one.