June 14, 2015
I’m not talking about the kind of permissiveness where you let your kid terrorize the family because he or she is in charge.
I’m talking about giving yourself permission to be human.
I’ve noticed a theme in the emails coming at me over the last few days. This is just the short-list of similar titles: Be Vulnerable; Own Your Own Power; Figure Out Your Mission; Know Your Purpose; Live Your Truth; Trust Yourself; Forgive; Open Your Heart
The glaring omission in each of them is the ‘easier said than done’ disclaimer!
Well, here it is. Yes, all of those are worthy goals or ideals or intentions, but only if you hold them lightly. The moment you make them shoulds, or musts, or have tos, the natural resistance that is part of being human will show up. And you’ll think of all the ways you’re not doing any of it, at least not perfectly, and certainly not all the time, so you may even feel depressed and less than you should be, the exact opposite of what the email is wanting for you.
So I’m encouraging you to give yourself permission to not achieve any of them as permanent states. Because they won’t be. I don’t care who you are, or how smart you are, there will be those days….right?! Those days when you can’t even remember why anyone would want you at their party, much less remember what it feels like to own your own power or trust yourself.
It’s ok. This stuff tends to develop in us when we’re doing things we enjoy. Those are the times the ahas tend to come – when we’re relaxed and engaged with something that’s making us feel good. So if you’re not feeling it today, that just means you’re with the the other 99% of us who don’t feel it every day either.